Life can get downright crappy at times. It’s hard to see the sunny side when you’re in a bad relationship; you’re unemployed; you can barely pay your bills; your credit is a joke; you’re working multiple jobs to make ends meet; you’re tired of being alone; you have health issues; you’ve lost a loved one; or you’re addicted to cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, or food.
In dire circumstances, you may feel powerless, hopeless, desperate, and insecure. Staying optimistic in challenging times isn’t easy, but if you don’t, your situation doesn’t stand a chance of improving.
How Do You Stay Positive When Life Gets Grim?
Know what you want to happen. Knowing what you want out of your situation gives you something to look forward to and work toward. Without goals, you’ll stay stagnant, stifling your growth. For instance, if you’re knee-deep in debt, your objective should be to get out of it, not to wallow in self-pity.
Cry when you’re overwhelmed. It doesn’t matter if we’re young or old or male or female, we all have the urge to cry when life gets excruciating. Crying helps you release negative emotions. After this release, you’re likely to feel more emotionally centered than if you had bottled up your emotions. Keep your teary sessions short and infrequent to avoid getting trapped in crying mode.
Say “no” to drugs. Drowning your sorrows in alcohol or drugs will not eradicate your problem. The same applies for “lighter” substances, such as cigarettes and weed. You might think… It’s just one drink, cigarette or joint. But as long as your problems are present, one drink, cigarette or joint will likely become two, then three, then four…and suddenly, you have a whole new set of issues to deal with.
Accept your role without beating yourself up. Be honest with yourself: did you play a role in your current demise? It’s easy to blame others for our problems, but often, we’re not without fault. If you’re to blame in any way for what you’re going through, admit it, but avoid becoming mired in guilt.
Shun destructive thoughts such as suicide. Put the gun, knife, pills, or whatever weapon you’ve chosen down. Suicide is a selfish act: it benefits only the person who did it. You will shatter the people you’ve left behind.
Talk to someone. If you cannot deal with your problems alone, confide in someone you trust.
Do what you can to change the situation. If the matter is within your control, it will not change if you do nothing. For instance, continuously grieving over the loss of a loved one inevitably puts you in a state of depression. When dark periods hit, take proactive measures to overcome them.
If you’ve done everything you can to fix the problem, but nothing has changed, accept that you did your best. If the situation is out of your control, accept it, and keep moving forward.